I never Really date. I don’t know where to find people to date. My friends are all married, they don’t seem too happy and say their husbands friends are all jerks, shy or losers. And the easily intimidated, yet still strong and powerful gal that I am. I don’t see myself walking in to a singles event. (Especially alone, do people do that?) Anyhow, point being. I don’t know where and how to meet people. Aside from what seems to be an overwhelming excuse to get an STD, other wise known as JDate.com and that doesn’t really excite me all that much. So if I’m not looking for Sex. I have Frumster.com. But I’m not looking for a mama’s boy either. So that leaves me with what?
So where do people meet people????
After my trip home for Pesach my aunt decided to set me up with some guy from back home. He’s not a member of the community because he’s a Baal Tchuva, I assume they think Maybe “he” can handle her or even feel like “she wasn’t frum for a while and she’s modern now. So lets set her up with a guy who’s parents aren’t frum and wouldn’t care about her history”.. Or maybe he’s just a black listed reject. I don’t know who’s idea it was, or even why. But I know my reputation back there isn’t Award Winning.
He’s nice and sweet and caring. But all that just adds up to a large pile of blah, and how much blah can one girl take. I’m fun, flirty, and sensual; I have blue eyes and black hair. I don’t “Do Blah” He’s studying for his CPA… Someone shoot me. I really don’t see this guy going sky diving anytime soon. And that’s one of the things on my list. Yeah, I have a list. I have things I want to do. I have plenty of them crossed off and that only wants me to accomplish the rest, that much more.
How do I do this? How do I end this? I don’t want to hurt or offend him. I don’t want to tell him that his oh so exciting career that will make sure his wife can sit at home and not have to work cause he’s going to be a CPA would cause me to gouge my eyes out of my head. I want to have babies. I do. I want to take care of my kids. I really want that. But I don’t want it to be all I do. So this is my fair well to the man with the heart for Accounting and one day. You will find that woman who wants nothing more out of life than to do all that. But this girl has dreams She’s no baby factory.
Now I just have to grow a pair of balls and tell him. Oy.. Back to square one.
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I have some thoughts but I won't share them in this forum. If you are interested, you know where to find me.
its writers freedom in here.
you've already invaded this little world. share your thoughts.
Din.
I married an accountant. He is definitely NOT BORING. Not all our interests are on par, but I've discovered some of his world, he's discovered some of mine...and some other "dreams" of mine (not skydiving, but wild and crazy things like that) have just had to be put on hold, or sometimes you have to do some things with a girlfriend in lieu of your spouse. But I wouldn't trade my accountant in for anyone else in the world! He was worth the wait (i was 32 when I married! And my three kids can beat any wild and crazy dream of mine anyday--- because they were a "dream come true."
Hope you find all you're looking for.
I think you are confusing the "romantic dream world" and the "real world". In the romantic fantasy world, are spouses are these perfect combinations of earner, fun person, sweetheart, lover and emotional rock. In the real world these people seldom exist. We have to make sacrifices and choices. You have to decide if an adventerous skydiver is more important to you than someone who might have MANY other qualities in a good spouse. Obviously, that's up to you. And I'm not saying the CPA is the guy for you. All I'm saying is don't dismiss someone out of hand because they don't fit a particular mold. If you do, you may find yourself looking for a LONG time.
ON a side note, I'm getting a little annoyed at my 0 comment blog. SOMEONE please go read it!!!
Let me clear this up. Its not that I haven’t given him a chance, I feel that I have. I connect with him too. I just don’t want to feel like "I’ve experienced more than him” I don’t like being classified or put on a pedestal. I already feel he’s trying to “seem cooler”. It’s a scary enough world out there without adding this in to the mix.
P.S. and so what if I’m picky. When I’m 30 and I have officially realized I’ll be too old to see my kids go to collage. Then I will start crying about picky I am. :)
You need to explain this better. If you connect with him, maybe he's just trying to "seem cool" because he likes you too??
This is a bad thing?
And also, you probably HAVE experienced more than him. In many ways, that's probably a good thing.
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