I officially decided I know the answer. For a few weeks now I’ve been trying to get in to this guys head. He wants me, he don’t want me. He makes sure to get me alone when we're hanging out… confides in me. Tells me secrets, personally I could have lived with out.
The point is. I had no idea what was going on for the last few weeks. Now this past week I figured it all out. There’s no more guessing involved. This is 100% with out a doubt the only answer. And this is my final answer!!
I HAVE NO EFFING CLUE!!
Who the hell allowed guys to think for themselves in the first place? This shouldn’t be allowed!! If men are allowed to vote on women’s issues, we should be allowed to vote on there’s.
So from today forward; I’m starting a petition. A revolution in the world, if I may call it. To take the right away from man, to be allowed to think on his own. He doesn’t know what he wants anyway!!
Do you know how hard there’s games are?
Why do men say we are the master of games?
Woman are always playing with guys heads… bah bah… whine whine… that’s all they do! Well now’s my turn to bitch and moan. Don’t give me personal attention; don’t tell me to come away with you. If your not going to ask me out or at least make a pass at me. Something anything, just some sort of sign that your interested. Please!? Is that asking too much?? Did that little mouse fall off the wheel? is it no longer spining?! Ahh... so annoying.
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So aside from the facts that (a) guys are morons and (b) they play games with our minds and (c) they smell, boys stink!
Now, to address the issue: Have you asked him what he wants from the relationship? Sometimes you can tell from hints guys will drop ("you're welcome over anytime--as long as I'm not getting lucky!" ...actual quote...) but most of the time you just can't and questions must be asked. Just remember that guys can't, as you've said, be trusted to think for themselves, so you have to make the question clear.
1. You are interested in him and want to know if he is in you, "Um, I am interested in you and wondering if you are interested in me. Are you interested in me?"
2. Maybe you're interested, maybe you aren't, but you want to know why he keeps leading you on, "You bring me to your house for the weekend and show me baby pictures, is this because you're testing my reaction to see how to act yourself? Because if you are, I'm not going to react until I know where you're heading. So where are you heading--to ask me out or just keep me around as a back-up plan?"
3. You like being friends with him but want to be friends with benefits, "Look, if you think that touching me will make me fall in love with you and that's why you hold back, don't worry. I have no room for emotions like that right now, so I think you should just touch me." (Okay, that wasn't a question, but it works well enough, I think.)
4. You want to go out with him, but you don't know why he hasn't asked you yet, "Hey, I like you. Wanna go out?"
5. You wonder why he's drinking 1% milk instead of whole, "I see you're drinking 1%. Is that because you think you're fat? Because you're not. You could be drinking whole if you wanted." (Okay, that I took from Napoleon Dynamite...but I couldn't resist.)
Anyway...best of luck!
Wow, that was more than I expected. Alot of good advice, Thank you.
So now that I have every other senior covered. (I promise to take that all with me in the future) (……well I hope I don’t have to.) But anyhow, now let me ask you. We’re friends. We hang out in the same social circle. How do I say any of that with out making it uncomfortable or embarrassing to see him later?
I don’t want him to think I’m desperate and needy and I don’t want to scare him away either.
Oy,
You know what I think? I think that if you're not desperate and such, you won't come across like you are. Of course, you have to wonder why you'd ask him anything and make that clear, too, I guess.
If you ask as a friend to a friend, you shouldn't worry. Also, if you employ exaggeration it helps ease things if you were off. Like saying, "do you like me?" could hurt if you get a "no." But a, "Oooh, you're totally in love with me!" is ridiculous, so if he says, "haha--no!" it's not so bad.
Ah, what am I saying? I shouldn't give relationship advice...I seem to always do things wrong. :(
btw, I tagged you.
speaking as a guy, who's been on a few sides of the "do they like me or not" totem pole, i'll tell ya-- There's a wide range of "like" that guys are capable of. And we're a bit scared of communicating the wrong one.
Somehwere down the pole is "I would sleep with you if it were easy and consequence free" Most guys who experience this one are righteous enough not to try to pursue it, as that would be so cruel, to give someone a chance to fall in love with you when you have little to no intention of being emotionally or often even physically present much at all nessesarily.
There's "huh. I wonder about her. Like, is she the one, and I just can't tell." This one will be kind of obvious, in that he will look at you alot, and try talking to you sometimes.
I personally feel like neither of these are generally worthwhile, even if The Other is really into you. Especially if, because then you're just teasing someone, more or less the meanest non violent, non-buisness realted thing you can do to someone.
If he really likes you, or is interested in potentially really liking you, you'll know. how?
It's like drugs and moshiach. If you 're not sure whether it's happening or not, then it's not.
That said, it can be pretty easy to get a guy to be attracted to you, even when he previously as not, just by being around and accesible. Just be careful... love dependant on anything will not survive that thing being taken away, and reeally isn't very satisfying for long. The crash is really rough too. --sigh--
And yeah, sometimes we're just experiencing an interaction for what it is, with no hope or expectation of what it will turn into, just a curiousity about who the Other IS that can transcend romance, even as it becomes intimate. Trust the relationship to be whatever it wants to be, or so i'm told.
all this said, brownsville girl is totally right on, and I refuse to believe any destruction caused by any of the actions you're describing wasn't for the best.
being single... not so much fun. ::nods heads::
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